Reality Check

This is a compelling article.  It's not my intention to sound insensitive and I am deeply sorry for your loss, and I understand the "normal" drama that comes with such a horrific event, but why are you adding an extra layer of drama that just doesn’t need to be?  I think a bigger issue is going on here, and it's about your inability to cope with the loss of your friend.  That really does concern me.  Select the online memories you would like to keep and save them to a file on your computer.  The next step is to block Lea and you'll never have to relive her death again.

I had a friendship that soured and I was deeply hurt, and even though I unfriended this particular person I would still see his photos, activities, emails, etc.  He would come up in different searches and in some small way I was reliving the drama.  I saved certain information and then blocked him – problem solved.  Even with upgrades, he doesn't show up.  There are no reminders he ever existed.

I have since dealt with my emotions.  Time really does heal all wounds.  I am not affected by his presence, but there is also no need to unblock him either.

I’ve had a few stalkers too, trolling my Facebook pages and those of my friends.  One of these particular stalkers knew more about my friends than I did – creepy!  She is a very needy person with emotional scars from childhood that I don’t believe ever healed.  Again, I kept certain memories and blocked her.  Even with upgrades to my phone, she doesn’t come up… And that’s a good thing!

For every problem there is a solution.  Sadly, sometimes it has to be all or nothing and that might mean totally walking away from that which consumes you or doesn’t grow your spirit.

There is another way of looking at this situation.  Perhaps these reminders of Lea are subtly trying to tell you something.  Maybe you shouldn’t be using social media because you’re not a strong enough person.  Online life can be brutal.  If you’re super sensitive, it will eat you alive.

Here’s to healing.  Cherish your memories of Lea.  She was a special soul, that’s for sure, and you were fortunate to have her in your life.  May she rest in peace. – paerki

(It’s so easy to trash Facebook when things don’t go our way.  If you’re concerned about oversharing, privacy issues, etc., perhaps you really shouldn’t be on Facebook.  Know your limitations.  There are more pros than cons for me.  I have met some wonderful, genuine people through Facebook that I can’t imagine ever not meeting.  They have touched my life in more ways than one.)

Reference: She's Still Dying On Facebook