"A" Is Overrated
Rarely am I duped, maybe only twice each year. Lucky for me it’s only happened once in 2013, but the year is not over yet (holding my breath). After the irritation has worn off, which takes about 15 minutes (for me), you’ve absolutely got to take matters into your own hands. It’s no use crying over spilled milk. What’s done is done. Pick up the pieces and move on to something bigger and better, or as I like to say, what was really meant to be.
As I tell my friends often, it’s mandatory you have other choices, especially when you are dealing with people who can’t get their shit together (sorry, but there’s just no other way to say it).
If friends can’t stick with a plan, constantly miscommunicate their intentions and/or chronically late – continue to love them, but have a backup plan. The best thing you can do is not get angry, but get even by having a good time without them. They’ll get the message (one would hope) and you’ll be able to get back into the good vibe you once had, making the friendship stronger.
I went from an offering of what I deemed a disingenuous adventure, to spending the day with me, myself and I, happy it turned out that way for many reasons. (My friend, it’s unfortunate we didn’t connect, but there are more opportunities on the horizon. However, there will be no planning. Impromptu only!)
I had a lovely Thursday afternoon, walking through the Johns Hopkins University Homewood Campus and Baltimore Museum of Art’s Sculpture Garden. I had lunch at Gertrude’s and then perused the galleries at the BMA, taking in two exhibits… Black Box: Gerard Byrne and Front Room: An-My Lê. I highly recommend both.
I’m in awe of artists because they help me tap into my own creativity. More importantly, they motivate communities, inspiring others to improve. I’ve always liked the quote from George Bernard Shaw – "Without art, the crudeness of reality would make the world unbearable." How true!
It’s important to spend quality time with yourself. We all need a bit of solitude, and the reasons are obvious – solitude allows you to reboot your brain and unwind… It helps you work through problems more effectively, and it can enhance the quality of your relationships with others.
What I often enjoy most is the walking. There are so many advantages. Walking helps with stress relief and weight loss, and the sheer joy of being in nature is plenty reason enough. Don’t you think?!
I encourage all to occasionally walk alone. It’s sometimes easier to do, because not everyone can go the distance. I like to challenge myself with hills and miles. There are times when I don’t feel like talking (that will shock some of my friends) or listen, but prefer to zone out. (For those who might read this, and find themselves insulted, please don’t slip into a delusional/paranoid state of thought. I cherish my walks with all of you – I really do, but walking alone is equally important. Give it a try!)
If you get anything from my end-of-day dribble, I hope it’s this… Make time for yourself. Time is a gift you give to yourself. Spend it wisely and feel refreshed and mentally re-set. It’s definitely going to improve your outlook, self-esteem and confidence.
And, the next time things don’t go your way, and trust me, there will be a next time – take a deep breath and channel your energy to a new direction, which will definitely lead you to a place where you are meant to be. This works for me… Well, most of the time. I believe disappointments often bear hidden gifts.
A happy weekend, to all! Something for you to consider… "A" is overrated. Think plan "B". It works every time. Cheers! – paerki
As I tell my friends often, it’s mandatory you have other choices, especially when you are dealing with people who can’t get their shit together (sorry, but there’s just no other way to say it).
If friends can’t stick with a plan, constantly miscommunicate their intentions and/or chronically late – continue to love them, but have a backup plan. The best thing you can do is not get angry, but get even by having a good time without them. They’ll get the message (one would hope) and you’ll be able to get back into the good vibe you once had, making the friendship stronger.
I went from an offering of what I deemed a disingenuous adventure, to spending the day with me, myself and I, happy it turned out that way for many reasons. (My friend, it’s unfortunate we didn’t connect, but there are more opportunities on the horizon. However, there will be no planning. Impromptu only!)
I had a lovely Thursday afternoon, walking through the Johns Hopkins University Homewood Campus and Baltimore Museum of Art’s Sculpture Garden. I had lunch at Gertrude’s and then perused the galleries at the BMA, taking in two exhibits… Black Box: Gerard Byrne and Front Room: An-My Lê. I highly recommend both.
I’m in awe of artists because they help me tap into my own creativity. More importantly, they motivate communities, inspiring others to improve. I’ve always liked the quote from George Bernard Shaw – "Without art, the crudeness of reality would make the world unbearable." How true!
It’s important to spend quality time with yourself. We all need a bit of solitude, and the reasons are obvious – solitude allows you to reboot your brain and unwind… It helps you work through problems more effectively, and it can enhance the quality of your relationships with others.
What I often enjoy most is the walking. There are so many advantages. Walking helps with stress relief and weight loss, and the sheer joy of being in nature is plenty reason enough. Don’t you think?!
I encourage all to occasionally walk alone. It’s sometimes easier to do, because not everyone can go the distance. I like to challenge myself with hills and miles. There are times when I don’t feel like talking (that will shock some of my friends) or listen, but prefer to zone out. (For those who might read this, and find themselves insulted, please don’t slip into a delusional/paranoid state of thought. I cherish my walks with all of you – I really do, but walking alone is equally important. Give it a try!)
If you get anything from my end-of-day dribble, I hope it’s this… Make time for yourself. Time is a gift you give to yourself. Spend it wisely and feel refreshed and mentally re-set. It’s definitely going to improve your outlook, self-esteem and confidence.
And, the next time things don’t go your way, and trust me, there will be a next time – take a deep breath and channel your energy to a new direction, which will definitely lead you to a place where you are meant to be. This works for me… Well, most of the time. I believe disappointments often bear hidden gifts.
A happy weekend, to all! Something for you to consider… "A" is overrated. Think plan "B". It works every time. Cheers! – paerki
