Paul Kilmon: A Life Illustrated in Words & Photos: Where Are You?

Welcome!

Through my writing, photography, career, and personal challenges, you will discover I am just like you, a person on a journey. My goals are simple, to be healthy and happy. You will learn I have many interests. The driving force for all I do is communication, the sharing of ideas and my passion for laughter. It really is the best medicine and a great stress reducer.

I consider myself a down-to-earth guy, who is just making it up as I travel through life, adding a virtual laugh track here and there to amuse others and myself. I have a friendly personality, which is expressive, warm, upbeat, fun, and positive. I love meeting new people. I thrive on communication, organization, diversity, creativity, and laughter. – Paul Eric Kilmon (paerki)

Monday, October 25, 2010

Where Are You?

We used to stereotype women as going gaga for love, but much has changed. Men are now of the same mindset. Deep down inside we all look for love, hoping it will lead to a lifelong relationship.

What do I know about love? I know love doesn’t hurt. It can be unconditional if the person is not an absolute complete moron. It’s honest and pure when the person is not busy loving someone else. It can be amazing when monogamy is agreed upon.

Love is not a physical or an emotional attraction. Love comes from seeing another person’s goodness. Goodness is measured by morals, values and communication, and living life by example. Yes, the physical attraction might set off some fireworks, an engaging personality might help you seal the deal with your parents, intelligence might make you think of stability, and if you dare to engage in some form of sexual intercourse it might rock your world, but none of that is love because love is goodness of the heart.

Goodness is sharing and building a friendship. Everything that happens beyond a friendship is icing on the cake. If and when challenges develop, friendship is the place you come back to for rejuvenation. It’s looking at each other and appreciating the other’s ability to be comfortable in his/her own skin.

It’s enhanced with two individuals sharing each other’s interests, with the understanding that it’s okay not to share all interests, but finding it nice when someone cares enough to occasionally participate. Goodness is preserving your health, eating well and exercising, with the goal of not just being healthy for you, but for your significant other too, so that you can enjoy a long and happy and healthy life together. It’s not abusing your body with smoking and drugs, and if using alcohol honoring moderation without it leading to abuse. It’s giving of you and expecting nothing in return. However, when it is returned, you show your gratitude with joyous measure. It’s about caring, helping and nurturing each other’s dreams of work and life, and honoring those choices.

Honesty, loyalty and communication are without a doubt the most import contributions you can make to your relationship. One must never abandoned these elements for a moment. It’s these ingredients that will cement your love forever. Make the choice to always choose quality over quantity.

Never forget that deep, intimate love emanates from knowledge and giving, it comes not overnight, but over time. The intensity of your love will grow as your relationship grows. May the goodness of love find you happy forever. – paerki

What would life be like without memories? It’s fair to say, there would be no life at all. Memory is our communication, reason, coherence, our action and more importantly, our feeling. Memories create our path in life, developing our psychology and leading us emotionally.

One of the best ways to create and store memories is with video. These simple effortless little snippets of time create diaries and become perpetual time capsules, which justify our walk on earth, telling all with great enthusiasm… I was here! I mattered! I lived! Please, don’t forget me.

Share your views, thoughts and opinions in the written word. Snap photographs so your eyes can travel back in time, remembering the happy and sad moments that made you the person you were, are and became in life. But, whenever possible, capture video to enhance the memories you leave behind, so that others may pass the essence of your life on to future generations. – paerki

I love photographs! They have this amazing ability to tell stories of fun places, special moments, memorable events, and exciting places. They give us reason to pause and remember friends, family, coworkers and so many others. One photograph can conjure up a flood of memories taking us on a journey. They help us remember the past, enjoy the present and ponder the future.

On a cold and rainy day I love sitting in my living room with a roaring fire, a glass of wine, classical music playing in the background and my many photographs scattered about me. I love sifting through what I call my special collection, which refers to my favorites. They remind me of the saddest and happiest moments of my life. They remind me of challenges and overcoming.

My large collection of images are a testament to a life lived. Life happens all around us so it’s important to collect special memories, and what better way than with a photograph. – paerki

It’s hard to believe I’ve been blogging for more than 12 years. This art form has allowed me to showcase and express my creativity. It has bolstered my confidence (not that is was lacking). At times it has been therapeutic, but more than anything it has given me a much deeper view of the world and how I see myself in it.

I use my insights as a barometer for self-change, which helps me reconcile the past, adapt to the present and navigate carefully into the future. I have enjoyed the roller coaster ride of thought as my hands write it and my eyes see it. As always, I hope you can relate to my stories, appreciate my views, savor the wisdom, reflect on the concepts and, more than anything, respect my friendly and genuine interest in connecting with others.

Find you own voice. Think about writing your own blog. Learn your style, share your views and open a whole new world of possibilities for you and your readers-to-be.. – paerki