Our Friendship

With friendships we look for each to last a lifetime, but then again, does anything really last forever? There is so much uncertainty and instability in the world. Change is rapid, and as for guarantees, there are none. I see a common look shared by those around me. I see it in your eyes, upon your face – the urgency to know… Are you true? Will you be there for me? Can I count on you?

It’s so easy to take friendship for granted, often allowing it to survive on automatic pilot. The best relationships are not left to their own devices – left alone to go with the flow, but should be nurtured through careful consideration, enthusiasm, loyalty and, more importantly, with the ability to listen and communicate (a healthy dose of spontaneity is always helpful, too).

Just like with marriage or a partnership, we look for those special people in our life to go the distance, trusting in our instincts, knowing they’ll always have our back. That level of trust can be rewarding and nourishing when life is unkind.

Friendship is important to me. I can’t always say I’ve been remarkably successful at it, especially in my younger years, but as I gain wisdom through age, I come to value that which is golden. It becomes a weapon when navigating life’s many twist and turns. Friendship is comfort with the right person, leaving me sad when we part and happy when we meet – always hopeful our next encounter will be sooner rather than later.

I realize the friendships I haven’t been successful in were draining because of acts of betrayal, manipulation, jealousy, contempt, and deceit, and at times they were even controlling, because many wanted more than I could give. How can I give what you weren’t willing to share? You wanted me on condition, and yet you knew I wouldn’t yield, thus the emptiness I feel for you and the longing you feel for me.

For others – your friendship is my blessing and what I prayed for in earnest ever since I was a little boy. I searched for those who would be strong, steadfast and true, loving me with a whole heart, and not one filled with pretense and illusion.

I am happy to say I have found true friendship with a select few that only ask one thing in return – communication, and with that our relationship has stood the test of time, thriving with an unconditional love that keeps me happy, healthy and strong.

This post was born out of a conversation I had with a friend. As brief as our conversation was, I am glad I got to see you today.

It was in the cards and part of our destiny that we meet to enhance our personal journeys. I don’t doubt our longevity. Regardless of the distance, I am always here. I will miss you terribly. Thank you for always believing in me.

I am going to miss hiking with you. Getting lost was the best part. – paerki