Just Say It!
Reading between the lines is not so hard to do, but often there is trepidation, fear that the message might not be what we want to hear, that it will be less than desirable to what our own mind is thinking, and there is always the possibility of misinterpretation. We read and reread, comparing mental thought, but soon realize the words run thin, and we end up right where we started, racking our brain to figure out what’s being said.
Often we attempt the futile task of getting into someone’s head. Is that always wise? In order to do so we must manipulate to understand an individual’s unique thought pattern. It’s only when we find what they react to, can we truly gauge how we’ll be perceived, and if it’s negative we end up not sharing our true self, and that’s when the bond wanes, and what you thought you had was nothing more than a relationship built of a house of cards.
What it comes down to is fear of being the odd man out. I’ll never forget sitting on a bench in a park chatting with my significant other from yesteryear, telling him our time was up, and that I was moving on. His response, “I’m the odd man out, and that’s a lonely place.” That phrase has served me well throughout time, because it tells me to be honest with each soul I encounter, to say what I feel, especially if I want the relationship to survive, and grow. (BTW: His inability to talk about feelings was problematic.)
It’s easy to pick up fractured pieces of thought, piecing them together like a puzzle in order to rebuild, but when there is silence, what is a person to do, but sit and ponder the what ifs. Fear of not being accepted or your thoughts not being reciprocated should never be an excuse for you not sharing, and speaks to an allegiance to self-loathing. The only way to grow is by crossing that line, and at times that requires a bit of hurt, but I do think the latter makes us stronger, getting us to that place where we will meet the right person, who will speak our language, reciprocating to our heart’s content.
We must say what we mean. There should never be an expectation of reading someone’s mind or heart because it leads to head games, and cheapens the relationship. We must never tell half-truths, expecting trust, and to be cold to someone you care about because you can’t speak up is another form of manipulation. Remember that indifference hurts more than angry words. – paerki
Additional Photos: An Afternoon Hike (Eastern Purple Coneflower and Sulphur Butterfly)
Often we attempt the futile task of getting into someone’s head. Is that always wise? In order to do so we must manipulate to understand an individual’s unique thought pattern. It’s only when we find what they react to, can we truly gauge how we’ll be perceived, and if it’s negative we end up not sharing our true self, and that’s when the bond wanes, and what you thought you had was nothing more than a relationship built of a house of cards.
What it comes down to is fear of being the odd man out. I’ll never forget sitting on a bench in a park chatting with my significant other from yesteryear, telling him our time was up, and that I was moving on. His response, “I’m the odd man out, and that’s a lonely place.” That phrase has served me well throughout time, because it tells me to be honest with each soul I encounter, to say what I feel, especially if I want the relationship to survive, and grow. (BTW: His inability to talk about feelings was problematic.)
It’s easy to pick up fractured pieces of thought, piecing them together like a puzzle in order to rebuild, but when there is silence, what is a person to do, but sit and ponder the what ifs. Fear of not being accepted or your thoughts not being reciprocated should never be an excuse for you not sharing, and speaks to an allegiance to self-loathing. The only way to grow is by crossing that line, and at times that requires a bit of hurt, but I do think the latter makes us stronger, getting us to that place where we will meet the right person, who will speak our language, reciprocating to our heart’s content.
We must say what we mean. There should never be an expectation of reading someone’s mind or heart because it leads to head games, and cheapens the relationship. We must never tell half-truths, expecting trust, and to be cold to someone you care about because you can’t speak up is another form of manipulation. Remember that indifference hurts more than angry words. – paerki
Additional Photos: An Afternoon Hike (Eastern Purple Coneflower and Sulphur Butterfly)
