Saturday’s Musings
Trust Is A Must
I value trust more than anything. It’s sad when a friend violates that trust beyond repair. Challenging as it is sometimes, there are occasions when you simply have to walk away from that which doesn’t grow your spirit – your soul. I believe one of the most difficult things a person can experience on the journey of life is the break-up of a friendship. It doesn’t matter how it ends or who ends it – no one wins.
I’ve had a few experiences of walking away from friendships. All of these friendships were long-term. It’s a hard decision to make, especially when you think about the effort, and let’s not forget the memories, but one must not allow the latter to get in the way. You must be strong enough to weigh the positive and negative.
You can’t allow someone to take advantage of you, now can you? I must admit, I held on for far too long. I held onto hope. I thought things would turn around. Patterns were formed, which slowly drained our connection.
What I ultimately realized was how one-sided things were. The relationship I was enduring was mine alone. I was the nurturer. I was doing most of the work and it has taken its toll.
The reason I am sharing this information here is because from time-to-time we must evaluate our connections with friends and family, and our work relationships too. Don’t hesitate to ask yourself this one simple question… Do my friends really want what is best for me?
I listened to my heart, and allowed it to guide me. I shared my feelings, following my intuition, and I have no regrets. I hope you have the courage to go where your heart leads you.
True friends are difficult to find, but a special friend is worth his/her weight in gold. Friendships take work, time and effort. The lessons I have learned… Don’t cast your friends aside, stay in touch, balance the art of give and take, focus on the quality and not the quantity of the meetings, be straightforward, listen, invest and, above all else, as much as you demonstrate just how much you care through actions, it’s equally important to speak words from the heart, for they have the ability to grow the bond stronger, and the love more beautiful. Words have power, and we must always use them for the greater good.
A happy place is key to a healthy life, and a more approachable you. Notice I didn’t say perfect life. There is no such thing. Challenges make us strong, change is inevitable, and motivation is something you should never be without. With a little introspection and the willingness to keep balance, structure and commitment in your world, happiness will surround you forever. Without it you’re vulnerable to all and a target for an unhappy life. Preserve your happiness today by taking a look inside your yesterday, for only then will you find a better tomorrow. (I need to remember that, too!)
To those friends who’ve sent me messages of concern – you’re beautiful and I am okay. Kindness always trumps heartache, pain and sadness. Cheers! – paerki
(Photo: Stony Run Trail. Like no other time before, I really appreciated today’s hike.)
A Random Message
I love, appreciate and enjoy a random message. It’s heartwarming. I opened my Facebook email and found the following… “Paul, I haven't seen you in decades and I'm sure we're very different characters, but I just want you to know that I respect you and appreciate you when our thoughts are in sync and when they are not. It's my joy to know you.”
I’m having a good day, but I think somewhere deep inside of me, I needed that message. It has brought a little extra joy to my world.
Kind words, gentle thoughts – have amazing power. They are a privilege to hear. I am honored. Than you, friend! You’re a good person.
Kindness: It comes in many forms, and is given in many ways. It’s appreciation and esteem for all that you receive. It’s favor, regard and respect for others. It’s delight, enjoyment and wonderment of life itself. More than anything, it’s mindfulness, compassion and empathy. Allow kindness to be your weapon and shield. It’s everyone’s job to be kind, attempting to engage others in kindness as well. Be kind whenever possible… And it’s always possible.
Continue to enjoy your weekend, my friends. Be kind. Cheers! – paerki
I’ve had a few experiences of walking away from friendships. All of these friendships were long-term. It’s a hard decision to make, especially when you think about the effort, and let’s not forget the memories, but one must not allow the latter to get in the way. You must be strong enough to weigh the positive and negative.
You can’t allow someone to take advantage of you, now can you? I must admit, I held on for far too long. I held onto hope. I thought things would turn around. Patterns were formed, which slowly drained our connection.
What I ultimately realized was how one-sided things were. The relationship I was enduring was mine alone. I was the nurturer. I was doing most of the work and it has taken its toll.
The reason I am sharing this information here is because from time-to-time we must evaluate our connections with friends and family, and our work relationships too. Don’t hesitate to ask yourself this one simple question… Do my friends really want what is best for me?
I listened to my heart, and allowed it to guide me. I shared my feelings, following my intuition, and I have no regrets. I hope you have the courage to go where your heart leads you.
True friends are difficult to find, but a special friend is worth his/her weight in gold. Friendships take work, time and effort. The lessons I have learned… Don’t cast your friends aside, stay in touch, balance the art of give and take, focus on the quality and not the quantity of the meetings, be straightforward, listen, invest and, above all else, as much as you demonstrate just how much you care through actions, it’s equally important to speak words from the heart, for they have the ability to grow the bond stronger, and the love more beautiful. Words have power, and we must always use them for the greater good.
A happy place is key to a healthy life, and a more approachable you. Notice I didn’t say perfect life. There is no such thing. Challenges make us strong, change is inevitable, and motivation is something you should never be without. With a little introspection and the willingness to keep balance, structure and commitment in your world, happiness will surround you forever. Without it you’re vulnerable to all and a target for an unhappy life. Preserve your happiness today by taking a look inside your yesterday, for only then will you find a better tomorrow. (I need to remember that, too!)
To those friends who’ve sent me messages of concern – you’re beautiful and I am okay. Kindness always trumps heartache, pain and sadness. Cheers! – paerki
(Photo: Stony Run Trail. Like no other time before, I really appreciated today’s hike.)
A Random Message
I love, appreciate and enjoy a random message. It’s heartwarming. I opened my Facebook email and found the following… “Paul, I haven't seen you in decades and I'm sure we're very different characters, but I just want you to know that I respect you and appreciate you when our thoughts are in sync and when they are not. It's my joy to know you.”
I’m having a good day, but I think somewhere deep inside of me, I needed that message. It has brought a little extra joy to my world.
Kind words, gentle thoughts – have amazing power. They are a privilege to hear. I am honored. Than you, friend! You’re a good person.
Kindness: It comes in many forms, and is given in many ways. It’s appreciation and esteem for all that you receive. It’s favor, regard and respect for others. It’s delight, enjoyment and wonderment of life itself. More than anything, it’s mindfulness, compassion and empathy. Allow kindness to be your weapon and shield. It’s everyone’s job to be kind, attempting to engage others in kindness as well. Be kind whenever possible… And it’s always possible.
Continue to enjoy your weekend, my friends. Be kind. Cheers! – paerki
