Mouthy

Friday I felt like being a little mouthy – sassy.  Yes, I had a few soapbox moments.  My opinions run the gamut.  I always appreciate feedback, encouraging all to participate.  I am thoughtful – respectful of all viewpoints.  Well, the majority of the time (wink).

As I always like to say, we all have a point of view to express, and let’s share it with the understanding of agreeing to disagree. I might not consent to your politics, but that will never stop us from being friends, coworkers or neighbors. Never allow one single topic to define your human spirit, but be open to all possibilities.  Cheers! – paerki

Saggy Pants Ban

I dislike saggy pants for the main reason they look thuggish (thugs come in all shapes, sizes and colors). They also look stupid and speak to someone who may not be that intelligent. Why not put your best foot forward? Look smart and act appropriate for it will take you many positive places in life. So many demand respect, but it’s hard to respect a clown. This is definitely not fashion, but laziness. (It’s not my intention to offend anyone, but there are some hot looking butts out there. Why would you want to make your backside look all sloppy?! Flaunt your ass(ets) in the right way.)

As for a law on saggy pants – as much as I loathe this look, creating a law is absurd. Look the other direction, people! However, try to encourage the clowns of the world in a positive way. Banning is not a solution. It’s a scary thought when we begin to ban everything we don’t like. (Choose your battles wisely.)

Lastly, if this is what politicians are worried about – we are in trouble. Big trouble! There is so much more going on that needs your attention. Want to talk crime?!  (Reference: OC Councilman Wants To Ban Baggy Pants)

Supreme Court Decisions

As I gain age I realize, I don’t care for the “in your face” kind of attitude. Some of the comments I am reading to the recent Supreme Court rulings are disheartening, to say the least. I’m not talking about those heterosexuals who thrive on hate (I have no expectations), but gays who sometimes beat a dead horse (I expect much better from us because of the long hard fight).

This is not a time for negativity, belittling the bigoted naysayers, because what does that say about you? About us? What does it prove? I want to be better than the hater. Let’s focus on all things positive, like are recent wins for equality (DOMA and Prop 8). It’s a big deal, and history has been made, but there is so much more work to do.

The decisions of Wednesday ignite a fire in me to press forward. They feed into my inspiration, while nurturing my faith in others. They reaffirm that anything is possible, but one must never give up hope.

This is a great time to be young and gay. I hope more young people will get involved, and I believe they will.

Here’s to the many supporters, especially those who’ve been fighting in the trenches for an eternity so that equality may prevail. You’re awesome, beautiful, and why I feel more liberated than ever. No choice here. Just me – gay and proud.

To my friends celebrating Pride in St. Petersburg, this is going to be one awesome pride. Celebrate for me. Happy Pride, to all! Cheers!

Lateness

The pet peeve of all pet peeves… LATENESS. I loathe it! Late people are always bringing others down. It’s time to diagnose what’s making you chronically late. If you strip all the excuses away, what you’re really saying is, others are not that important. All the excuses made for being late are just that – EXCUSES!

I often think people who are late are living a relatively chaotic lifestyle, and still that’s not a good excuse. What’s apparent is these individuals may have larger issues, especially with organization, and many are procrastinators too. I’ve witnessed this insidious behavior too many times in the workforce. Companies need to take a tougher stance on lateness.

I have remedied lateness with my friends. I just walk away or don’t include them in my activities, and I never, ever cave to the person who is late. I call it, tough love!

I can appreciate the following comment: “Chronic lateness is a form of narcissism. What you are really saying is... Stop and look at me! Wait for me! Call me! Worry about me! It's a passive aggressive way of making yourself the center of attention. The cure is leaving the late person out. Stop including them, if and when you can.”  (Reference: When Friends Always Show Up Late)

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