Wednesday, November 27, 2013

I’ll Think Of You

…and I hope you’ll think of me too.

The loss of a friendship – I had forgotten how emotional it can be, but then this wasn’t your average friendship.  No, nothing average here.  Perhaps in some strange cosmic way, I needed this reminder.  I needed to feel this deeply, and I know something good will come from it.

I lost a friendship, one I cherished so very much.  I won’t go into the details, but when all was said and done, it ended because of poor communication.  Someone was unwilling to yield, to communicate effectively.  However, no matter what, it takes two – two to break down the walls of communication, or two to rebuild.  It takes two happy healthy people to make one happy healthy whole relationship, but it does take work.  Depending on the person, the work can be worth it – this I know for sure.  (I probably should have ended it a while ago, but I didn’t because when I love, I love deeply, and my love has not waned.)

I always wanted more from you, more than you were willing to give.  So here we are – now going our separate ways.  I’ll think of you – always, missing you – nonstop, and I’ll forever wonder how you are.

With each hike I take, I’ll think of you.  With every butterfly I see, every flower I smell, every tree I touch, every sky I cherish, and every sunset I chase – I’ll think of you, and my heart will stop, if only for a moment.  I’ll take a deep breath and remember you, and I’ll want you to be there – beside me, holding my hand.  I’ll miss your enthusiasm, laughter and your intense passion because it was equal to my own.

If and when you ever have the time, allow me to gently move through your mind, your heart – spend time with me, just a little and think about our past – all that was good, happy and right.  In that quiet moment when you’re surprised to find me there – regardless of the distance, I’m someone who cares about you, and loves you.  I can’t imagine that ever changing, and only you know why.

Many of you might wonder why I’m sharing this on my blog.  Well, it’s something I want to remember forever, and it’s a teaching moment too.  Life is better when we share.

I had recently written the following, and it’s relevant to this post: Listen to yourself. Hear what you say. Your words are power.  They are fierce and, yes, they can be the complete opposite too, leading to cruelty and disdain. Allow people to hear a voice of clarity and see a life of respect so you’ll be worth remembering. They’ll quote your spirit, love, happiness and perseverance. And when you speak kind, true and honest words, you in turn will become famous in your own right.

We must become better communicators if we want to succeed in all aspects of our life, especially as it pertains to work, and finding a soul mate.  I personally believe in the latter.  Some of us are destined to meet, whether it is for a lifetime of love or just a friendship, someone who will listen and be there until the end.  We all deserve that much, and if you have someone special in your life, cultivate that friendship by being in constant communication.  Never be passive because a good friend, a cherished friend will always understand you. – paerki


Can you imagine what your life would be like if you could not communicate? If you could not talk, no body language and no facial expressions… Nothing!

Many of us take communication for granted. In doing so we run the risk of jeopardizing our relationships with friends, family members, significant others, coworkers, employers and countless others. Poor communication skills can lead to character flaws, which have the ability to affect our mental, emotional and physical health.

Not being able to communicate effectively has the ability of altering our direction in life, often challenging our goals and sometimes has us questioning and negotiating our morals and values. Misunderstandings are more likely to occur. This has the ability to create confusion, frustration, manipulation and disappointment, and all because we could not communicate effectively.  This is definitely something to think about.

Sometimes it is hard, but we need to listen. We need to learn to delay our reaction until we have more information so we don’t form inaccurate assumptions.

How we encounter the world has been influenced by who we are, our backgrounds, our education, our values and beliefs, our needs, positions, jobs and much more. We each see the world through our own eyes.

Honesty, loyalty and communication are without a doubt the most import contributions you can make to your relationship. One must never abandon these elements for a single moment.

If you do anything, keep it real! Being real with yourself and others creates a balance to your karma. If you keep it real, simple and limit your drama, good karma will follow you forever and ever.  Cheers! – paerki

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